I think the struggle of body image, how we view ourselves compared to how others truly view us, is something that every single woman can relate to. Even the most confident women in the world, have little insecurities. Some of these insecurities we can change, and some of them we cant. So rather than beating ourselves up for how we were born and meant to be, asking “Why is this happening to me? Why am I not good enough? Beautiful enough? Slim enough?” Whatever it may be…perhaps we should as a better question which would be: “How can I learn to love and accept myself fully and completely so that I can be the confident woman that I truly want to be?”
Here are some things that have worked for me…
1. STOP AVOIDING YOUR BODY
Know it’s lumps and bumps. For not just appreciation but also possible health concerns. Our skin is our largest organ and it’s always giving us warning signs. We just need to pay attention to those.
GET RID OF THE SCALE, and appreciate your figure in the mirror instead. If you are on any weight loss or fitness journey, I find progress photos are the best way to capture your progress. At the end of the day, the scale is just a number and it doesn’t share anything valuable about how you look or feel.
2. PAMPER YOURSELF
Shave the parts that need to be shaved, and lotion the parts that need to be lotioned. Taking the extra 10-15 minutes out of your day to treat your body with some love and compassion does wonders for your self-worth and happiness. It sends a message saying, YOU ARE WORTHY
I don’t care how strapped you are for cash, go get that monthly manicure, facial, massage, - whatever it is for you! Again, spending that money is a statement. You claim your power as the act of spending money on yourself in a healthy manner, says I AM WORTHY OF THIS. I DESERVE TO FEEL RELAXED, HAPPY, FRESH, CLEAN, BEAUTIFUL, whatever it is for you. The money you spend on yourself will come back to you 10-fold in the results you get from being a happier person.
3. REPLACE THE LANGUAGE
I have strong legs. I used to want model-like toothpick legs, as I thought it would give the illusion that I’m taller. Today, I am happy with my legs, because I’ve replaced the language. “I am so grateful I have an athletes body with strong legs, to help me walk, run. jump, squat more, constantly test my strength, and power through my day.”
4. STOP CHECKING
So this goes back to some of what's written above; get rid of the scale! But also don’t obsess about every roll in the mirror… WE ALL HAVE ROLLS! My husbands nickname for me is BUDDHA OKAY?! Loll I HAVE ROLLS TOO. You can have abs and rolls all at the same time. It does not mean you are overweight or any less of a person if you have rolls. So stop checking! Remember, Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither is your health or fitness journey.
5. STOP COMPARING
We all have our own unique DNA which determines, our skin hair and I colour, our health, our muscle mass and shape, our metabolic rate etc. Some of us have different advantages than others so we need to work with what we’ve been given, rather than saying, “oh I wish I was like Blake Lively.” Okay? love Blake Lively. But she's tall and blonde. I’m 5’ and brunette. I could never be like her, no matter how hard I tried. So embrace your own secret sauce, your own beauty!
And before I go, this is the key player to everything, and it's related to embracing your secret sauce…and that is, LIVE YOUR TRUTH. Meaning examine your values and live according to those values! When we are living in alignment with ourselves, all our insecurities fade away. When we are in alignment, we are operating at a higher vibration where any insecurities that we do have, no longer hold strength over us. People places and things just flow, and we are more concerned about how good of a human being we are. It no longer becomes a battle of the exterior, but rather a flow of the interior beauty. Our love, our hope, our wisdom and intelligence, our compassion and our ability to serve others. That’s what truly makes someone beautiful and when you live from that place, you feel beautiful as well!
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Love & Gratitude,